Yesterday was our second wedding anniversary. Without a doubt 18th January 2014 was the best day of my life and I don’t see any way of topping it.
Joe and I said ‘I do’ at Cooling Castle Barn in Kent. A series of interconnecting barns and castle turrets on the drive make this place quite magical.
I clearly remember every detail of the day… I stayed at a local B&B the night before with Violet, my parents and in-laws. Hair and make-up arrived in the morning and it was a sudden frantic bustle of rollers, brushes, pins and powders.
Time started to run away with us and at midday we finally piled everything into the cars and sped off to the venue.
Butterflies were kicking in but my main concern right then was that I was half an hour behind schedule and still in my normal clothes!!
Once we made it to the venue guests were arriving and I had to sneak into my room. I didn’t have a bag or dress on me, just myself, my maid of honour and Violet who had filled her nappy. The photographers were tapping their watches but all I could think about was that I needed to change a nappy. Frantic phone calls to my mum who for some reason had ended up with the nappy bag were made and eventually I was just ‘normal mummy’ again but with make-up, hair and pretty nails! Phew!
Once that minor hiccup was sorted, Caroline helped me into my dress. It did feel absolutely wonderful to put that dress on, it will always be the best thing I’ve ever worn. It fitted beautifully, pulled me in at all the right places and made me feel incredible!
After a few photos we walked over to the barn. The weather was perfect, the sun milky in the sky and no rain. The Master of Ceremonies was a lady and she talked me through everything that was about to happen. In truth I felt like I was starting to have an out of body experience by this point but Violet was a wonderful grounding force.
I could almost deflect my nerves by making sure she was ok and fussing over her rather than feeling like everyone was fussing over me. Once Caroline, my dad and I had been to see the Registrar and complete the last formalities we stood in the upstairs corridor. We were ready. Nothing else needed to be planned or sorted. All I had to do was go and get married!
The music began and I had an instant surge of emotion. Caroline spoke to me calmly while I tried to compose myself. Then we walked in.
I gripped the bannister as I walked down the stairs. “Please don’t trip” I was telling myself! This photo is very special to me as on the window ledge you can see a photograph of my dear grandparents. They were everything to me and would have loved to have celebrated our day. I glanced over to the photo as I walked down the stairs.
As I started to walk down the aisle I saw so many faces of our friends and family. Everybody was here to celebrate with Joe and myself. As I looked down the aisle I saw Joe smiling. I had to keep a lid on my emotions! We were ushered onto the platform and the ceremony began.
Violet could not have been sweeter, she toddled around looking at the decorations, was lured back to my mum with the promise of chocolate buttons but ultimately came to sit at our feet as we said our vows. It was so poignant to have our daughter at our wedding. Perhaps we had not done things in the most traditional order but I can say that I will forever feel honoured that our first born witnessed our special day. Once we were married and had signed the register we walked out to have a brief moment to ourselves and then some photographs.
The rest of the day was a wonderful amalgamation of dancing, food, photographs, drinks, laughter, friends, family and fun.
For our first wedding anniversary we stayed at home with Violet and a 7 week old Ezra. I got Joe a print of our first year together. This year after work we stayed in again and indulged ourselves with Homeland on Netflix and Ben & Jerry’s icecream! We will go out in a few weeks time for cinema and a meal.
Being married is wonderful. An absolute union and formalising our family unit. I look back at our day with a smile and also wistfully wish I could fit into my wedding dress again one day!!!!