Halloween hasn’t really featured in Violet’s life yet so I decided to start some little traditions this year. We got 2 pumpkins and some decorations to hang up. Trick-or-treaters are few and far between at home so we came to my parents as they have dozens of callers.
First of all we started to prepare the pumpkins. I encouraged Violet to help me pull the seeds out however it took 1 handful for her to declare it yucky and she didn’t want to touch it any more. She instead chose to stir the seeds in the bowl with a spoon because “it’s like mixing a cake”!
Ezra came to check out the pumpkins however when he sat down he just looked bemused!! Violet tried to show him how to use the spoon but he had no idea what we were up to and soon crawled off to inspect a shoe!
I then set to work carving the pumpkins. I checked Google for inspiration and settled on one being sick and the other from The Nightmare Before Christmas.
We set them up outside along with a glow in the dark skeleton and some bats.
Violet was SO excited about people coming over and asking for sweets. She waited by the window and looked out. The sweets were ready in the basket for her to offer to the children. And then when the first group came she dissolved into tears and felt completely overwhelmed. Despite encouragement from everybody and cuddles the moment was ruined and she just found everything too much. In my heart I did feel disappointed. She had looked forward to this evening so much but when it came to it she didn’t feel able to get involved. Several groups of children came to the door, all accompanied by adults. They were so sweet and chatted to us rather than grabbing the chocolates and running. Whilst I was getting Ezra ready for bed I heard more people ringing the doorbell. And when I came downstairs Violet proudly came to me and said she had been to the door and helped Daddy give the sweets. I felt SO happy with her. She takes time to warm up to things and sometimes even the smallest things can be very overwhelming for her. I know that having groups of children wearing strange fancy dress can be intimidating for everybody so for her this was a really big deal!!
Hopefully next year she will be more confident about Halloween. I would expect that with Ezra by her side she will feel stronger and even able to get involved in the fun.
So a bit of a mixed start to Halloween in our family but I think next year will be even better!!